Time is of the Essence

Occasionally, people recommend new topics for me to write about in my blog. I very much welcome your feedback and recommendations…so keep it coming!

Ally gave me a recommendation the other day, but I decided it would be better if she (the one passionate on the topic) composed the post on her own.

For this reason, the following blog is a guest-written piece by Ally Bertik:


One thing I’ll always fail to understand is people and their respect for others’ time. It’s something that consistently bothers not only me, but many others as well.

When it comes to daily life routines, people have to pull it together and be responsible. They get to work on time, go to meetings, and take care of themselves. However, as soon as it comes to making plans for their social life with other people, they simply do not have any consideration for others’ time. This goes for not just extra curricular activities with friends, but also family events, dates, etc.

While being spontaneous and going with the flow doesn’t bother some people, it’s definitely one of my pet peeves. For instance, if you make plans with friends to go out on a Friday night, then assign a time for it, or at least a time range to get a general idea! There’s no reason to lolly-gag all day Friday when you have another person(s) waiting on you to tell them when and where. Sure, you might be busy during the day going about your daily to-dos, but at least give the other person a heads-up as to when and where you’ll be meeting. Give them a ballpark range for crying out loud. Don’t make them wait until 20 minutes before YOU are able to meet.

Maybe you and your friend live about 35 miles apart. In Los Angeles, that’s not uncommon, but when it comes to planning on seeing one another, you have to have respect for each others’ time. Let’s say, at 8pm, they ask you to come over (mind you, it’s on a weeknight). Now you’d have to drive 30-40 minutes to see them when you know you have other priorities,  and have to be up early for work the next day. It’s just not practical. If you had accounted for going over there earlier in the day, then you may have gotten your priorities done sooner, and cleared up your evening plans. To some it’s not a big deal, but your friend should have a little more respect for your time if he/she knows you live that far apart.

Now for those of you (and I’m saying maybe 30% of the population) who do respect mine or someone else’s time and make plans accordingly, cheers to you! You’ve made not only mine, but Santa’s “good” list too.

Part of adulting means planning ahead, thinking of how your actions affect others, and finding balance between taking care of priorities and scheduling your social life. People need to remember that the world doesn’t revolve around them!

If a plan is important to you, then act like it. Don’t let your opportunities fly by, simply because you couldn’t take the time to think through your plans and follow through with them! Ain’t nobody got time for that.



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